Why leave WoD?

[Konoko]

I am reposting this post. I had initially posted it in the Private Clan area. Of course those who may know some of the answers/reasons have left our clan and don't have access to the private area anymore.


I think that it should be mentioned to Sargon and Tater that we value them as vacationing-clan-mates and how we still believe that they would be well suited to coming back to the WoD.

I personally don't understand, say in Sargon's case, how he now thinks he is not worthwhile to the goals of this clan. He helps exiles and newbies by healing! That's great! He always seemed to be running around healing people...

Just because he is growing as an individual and say wants to explore or adventure in the tougher areas or whatever where there are less or even no newbies doesn't mean that he doesn't fit within the clan.

I don't know if this is similar to Tater as well but maybe it is.


There's nothing wrong with doing your own stuff. One does not have to devote time and effort to newbies every minute of every day. Take time to do your own things. Exiles grow stronger and to advance their own skills and abilities means that they will occassionally be venturing in non-newbie areas. Don't feel guilty about this! It just means that you too were once a newbie and have grown past the restraints or limits that were initially imposed as part of your newbie-ness.

I doubt very much that Sargon and Tater are turning their backs on newbies. I'm sure they will still do their best to help out newbies and all exiles of all strengths. I don't see why this means that they think they can no longer be a part of the Winds of Dawn.


I just don't get it...
Are people feeling guilty that they are growing stronger while the newbies are less strong and powerful? To me, that's the whole point! Who better to help newbies with tips, heals, etc than those who are more powerful than the newbies. We were all once newbies and kind of know our way around. So we help!


Why are people thinking they must leave?
Can anyone explain this to me?


Konoko

[Sargon]

/ponder They all look at Tater and me and expecting us to say something! Eep!
/action pokes Tater
/ponder Hm.. no reaction, so it's my turn I guess

Hi :)

/ponder They expect a bit more I guess...

I can't speak for Tater here, so don't apply anything I say to her.

Konoko, what can I say.. what seems like a good reason to _me_ is not necessarily a good reason to _you_. Additionally, it's often hard to express in words why exactly one does something. The most honest answer I can come up with why I've decided to leave the clan is because "I felt like I should do it". I realize that doesn't explain a whole lot, but that's the reason. I don't think it has anything to do with becoming strong and growing as an individual. I think I would feel the very same, had I only 10 ranks in total now.

I do know it was the right thing to do for me, because I feel happy being clanless so far. I still have close contacts to many of you (well, the ones who leave the library once in a while /action pokes Konoko!) and I'm very glad about that. And the reactions I got from you guys were simply overwhelming... Really... I mean there are probably clans that would hate you eternally if you left.. and here's it's the opposite! Wow...

Maybe I'll apply for membership again in your clan and I hope I'll be accepted then. Time will tell..

Sargon

PS. I'm still waiting being chained by you, Delirium!

/ponder Mental note: Never fall during clan meetings...

[Himitsu]

I can understand that a person feels that they need to reorient themselves on the path that they want to walk on and so removes themselves from all ties in order to do this. It doesn't mean that the ties are wrong or that the groups that the person was tied to were bad.

At the end of this journey, the person might find a new path to walk on and they also might decide to retie themselves to the groups that they left earlier. I think part of what makes Winds of Dawn so great is that you would accept the person back again and without any anger at them leaving to start the journey.

Even though I have never really talked to Sargon or Tater, I hope that their journey is good for them. [:)]

[Tas Furrfoot]

Konoko,

I have wondered the same! How do you balance this in the clan? I long ago said to ... i forget who... that being in a clan that I did not expect to have to be with my clan members ALL the time! I wanted to belong to a clan that was there if I needed but also allowed the personal freedom to grow. The Tan of Hearts clan seemed to fit that bill for me early on, and I hope it will continue to do so.

I think some that have left have left because they've grown strong and feel the clan is holding them back. In my mind, they have let the clan down a bit - rather than help the clan strengthen and experience some of the things they've been doing... on the other hand I can see they felt the clan was becoming a ball and chain for them.

So, we try to let them free.

Most in our clan have become 2nd and 3rd circle now. Oh! BTW, Glory said that I was VERY CLOSE last night to raising her! Wheeeee.... /action cries... boohooo.. I failed... (i'm moody now).

Ah heck, I forgot where this was going.. basically I have wondered the same Konoko. I like Sargon alot - but wonder what the heck he's doing out there... all alone and then wanting friends like you at the sametime... there's a halfling expression about eating cake and having it too...

/ponders perhaps Sargon needs to join Hearts of Tan? =) We'll assimilate them! hm... need to talk to Tater... we've been inducting more halflings lately too.

/action giggles

Seriously, all I know how to do is let these souls free and like a butterfly they will flutter to and fro.. the winds will take them where ever they will go... and when they fall... you can sit next to them and torture ... er.. .nibble... er... gnaw on.. I mean - awww heck.. lick him and be done with it. I think Sinan should be jealous!

[Corwin]

See my post in the Nuvali thread....